Equality Wheel

The equality wheel diagram (below) shows equality at the center of the healthy relationship. When both people in a relationship believe they are equal, and neither tried to gain power and control over the other, the result is a non-violent and healthy relationship. There are examples provided below of behaviors that go on in a relationship based on equality.

The equality wheel below is a condensed version, with the description of the parts below the image.

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** In the following descriptions the victim is referred to as a female. However victims can be male and female and the verbiage below should not stop anyone from seeking services. **

Negotiation & Fairness

• Seeking mutually satisfying resolutions to conflict
• Accepting change
• Being willing to compromise

Non-Threatening Behavior

• Talking and acting so that she feels safe and comfortable expressing herself and doing things

Respect

• Listening to her non-judgmentally
• Being emotionally affirming and understanding
• Valuing Opinions

Trust and Support

• Supporting her goals in life
• Respecting her right to her own feelings, friends, activities, and opinions

Honest and Accountability

• Accepting responsibility for self
• Acknowledging past use of violence
• Admitting being wrong
• Communicating openly and truthfully

Responsible Parenting

• Sharing parental responsibilities
• Being a positive non-violent role model for the children

Shared Responsibility

• Mutually agreeing on a fair distribution of work
• Making family decisions together

Economic Partnership

• Making money decisions together
• Making sure both partners benefit from financial agreements

To download a printable, more detailed copy, please click here: Equality Wheel - PDF (1353 kb)

Equality Wheel Obtained from:
DOMESTIC ABUSE INTERVENTION PROJECT
202 East Superior Street
Duluth , MN 55802
218.722.2781
duluth-model.org